All parents have at least one thing in common: they want what is best for their children. But what is best? Best is completely subjective. What works for one parent might not work at all for another. Each and everyone perceives the needs of their children differently and react upon them in distinct ways.
Yianni is super excited about the swim classes he takes at school every Thursday. That is why I was extremely surprised to hear him say that he doesn’t want to go to school today. After a long talk with him I realised that the problem behind the unwillingness to show up for the swimming class is that he was being bullied at school about his bag with wheels. Slap no 1: There I go and think that a bag with wheels is super cool and it turns out to be the worst choice. Way to go momma!
I decided to take action. It turns out to be a totally different action from what N. would have done, but anyway. I went with both kids to the store and looked for a fun enough backpack which would cheer my son up and make him proud to take to swimming class. I saw the bag and fell in love. It was one of these (rare) moments when mom and son liked the same thing. WOW, what a relief (I couldn’t bear the fact of buying another crappy mcqueen thingy). He was happy, I was happy, Iliana was not that happy (she was trying to deal with the ‘no honey you don’t really need a bag since you are not going to school yet’ kinda reply).
We left the store and went to IKEA. At the checkout, the nice lady sees my kids and decides to give them a few stickers of LIFE IS GOOD, IKEA. Boy, were they thrilled! Christmas came early this year. How unfair is that. Slap no 2: I go out of my way, buy the super cute (don’t dare to bully my son again) crocodile bag, buy them dinner at IKEA and she gets the million dollar smile! Ughhh.
Truth be told, no matter how hard we try, what children really need is tenderness, support, love and a few fancy stickers!