I had a blissful childhood. My mom was the most warm, tender, patient, fun mom in the world. She played with us for hours, she let us paint on our summer flats walls (respect to my dad for going along with it), she crafted and let us nearly demolish her kitchen at the attempt of cooking and just let us be. She threw children’s parties like no one else that are still fondly remembered some 25+ years later. She made everything seem so easy.
However, having the ‘perfect’ mom as a role model proved to be a liability and not an asset when I became one myself. This is my list of motherhood illusions:
- Being pregnant will magically turn you into this perfectly shaped beautiful mom to be. Unless you are Gisele Bundchen or any other Victoria’s Secret top model chances are that you will become a fat, swollen up version of yourself cause the ‘I have to eat for 2 now’ theory is a load of crap.
- Breastfeeding is wonderful. Yes, I agree. It is wonderful. Wonderfully challenging is how I would put it.
- Having a child with your partner strengthens your relationship. Oh boy…If you manage to make it through as a couple the first six months of your baby’s life then your chances of sticking together are pretty high.
- Sleep like a baby. I don’t even know who came up with this phrase and why the truth behind it is the exact opposite of what everyone means when they describe someone who slept well. Babies DO NOT SLEEP WELL. The sooner you come to terms with that the better (for everyone included).
- Having a baby won’t change anything. Yeah right…Nothing at all. You just lose yourself, your independence, your friends, your sleep, your life as you know it.
Bottom line? Be human, make mistakes, let your children witness your flaws, apologize when you must and try to enjoy as much as you can. After all, they are only babies once, thank God 😉