hi, my name is Tatu and I am a honest-a-holic!

28 Nov

Well. I know what you’ ll say. Tatu is not a ‘real’ name. You are probably right. Tatiana is my real name. Tatu is the name I gave myself at the age of four. But back to the main subject of this post:

I love my new word and since my cyber friend Anka from http://www.keepingitrealmom.com thought it was pretty cool herself, I decided to share it with you:

Honest-a-holic, noun: a person who feels the constant urge to tell the truth , the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help him God.

It sounds good, right? Wrong. Being honest is rarely appreciated, let alone understood. The truth is that I haven’t been honest my whole life, that alone would be a huge lie. What I have been, for a big part of my life, is lied to. In the face. Tons of times. Usually by the same person (I do not need to go into detail of who that person is, thankfully it is not N.)  I drowned and suffocated. And you know what? The truth always comes out in the end. The more I got lied to, the more I felt the need to be true. First to myself and then to others. There is nothing more liberating than being able to tell the truth. I can assure you of that…

With this blog I let myself go. I don’t feel judged, I feel understood. I feel free to be as honest as it gets and THAT is a very big deal for me. THANK YOU!



11 Responses to “hi, my name is Tatu and I am a honest-a-holic!”

  1. expatsincebirth November 28, 2012 at 10:36 pm #

    Hi, Tatiana, my name is Ute and… I really like your post, the way you write it and the way you are honest-a-holic! xxx

  2. Keeping it Real November 28, 2012 at 11:13 pm #

    Love this post, Tatu! You already know how I feel about being honest. Like you, I have tons of reasons why I have an aversion to lying. Fortunately, those memories are a distance past. Now, you and I can celebrate the freedom we have discovered in staying true to ourselves!

  3. Fit Minded Mom November 29, 2012 at 2:20 am #

    I am known by all of my friends as the “blunt” one. Don’t ask me if your butt looks big because if it does I will tell you so. If you are treating me like crap, I will let you know I don’t appreciate it. I just have no “lie” filter and you are right, it is definitely NOT appreciated by most. I have been working on toning it down a bit but it is hard to “lie” when I really want to scream the truth!!!

    • wonderlandbytatu November 29, 2012 at 9:46 am #

      There is a fine line between being honest and sounding nasty. I think if you remain truly honest you will be appreciated by your real friends. Sure, you will lose some on the way but they are probably not worth keeping anyway xxx

      • expatsincebirth November 29, 2012 at 10:06 am #

        Yes, the line is very thin, but it also depends on the situation. Sometimes you can’t be honest with a friend when other people (maybe collegues) are around, because it could offend her/him. I think, being honest without hurting the feelings of the other person is a real art. You have to know the character of the other person and the way you can tell her the truth.

      • wonderlandbytatu November 29, 2012 at 10:08 am #

        yes, thank you Ute for clarifying it up. Being honest without hurting someone’s feelings is a must. xxx

      • wonderlandbytatu November 29, 2012 at 10:09 am #

        and unless your opinion is asked and the other person is ready for the honest answer, better don’t say anything…

      • Fit Minded Mom November 29, 2012 at 5:06 pm #

        I actually have a wonderful group of friends who do appreciate my honesty. They know they can come to me when they want to hear the truth and not just a sugar coated opinion. And yes, I agree….while I am very honest I do my best to make sure it is presented in a tactful, non-hurtful way.

  4. ramblingsfromamum November 29, 2012 at 2:26 pm #

    I love your name!!! I have always adored Tatiana…I want you to be honest and say why you call yourself Tatu…or is it just a nick-name you have adopted because you liked?

    Your Post – Honesty is a fine line …like a white lie.. you have to careful about to whom you are honest with and what the situation is. All in all honesty is the best policy… so let’s just stick to that 🙂

    • wonderlandbytatu November 29, 2012 at 2:42 pm #

      I gave myself this name when I was too young to pronounce the whole thing. Other than that, I never liked Tatiana that much as I always thought that it has too many aa’s in it 😉 When I started the blog I wanted to share more of my crafts and I thought Tatu would be more suitable: Wonderland by Tatiana – sounds to me a bit weird – however, the title seems to be off a bit generally since I focus so much on parenting – nothing really wonderlandish there…


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