I can’t compete

19 Feb

and the truth is nobody can. After all, we are talking about Petra, my mom. She is UNIQUE in a very chaotic kind of way.

I wish I had just a little bit of her energy, imagination, endless patience, and joy to play along with the kids. Her secret?? She is still a kid at heart. At 68. When it comes to spending time with Omaka/Paka everybody is in. All 5 grand kids (my sister’s 3 & my 2) literally fight over who is going to spend more time with her. And both Alex & I use her as a bribe reward (nasty daughters).

If you find the strength to overlook THE MESS she leaves behind you are more than fine. I, on the other hand, left her chaotic artistic household 15 years ago and find it difficult at times not to feel disoriented. Whenever I feel the urge to make a critical observation I find myself battling with the inner more-organised-me to keep my mouth shut and just let her be.

Please don’t misunderstand me.  I am the recovering chaotic-want to be more organised-married to N. the semi neat freak-kinda gal. I like it when the house is clean and no mess is lying around (that happens once a week when the cleaning fairy comes and lasts about 10 minutes-max). I try to keep it at a living standard but If I have to choose to either spend time with the kids or tidy up the house, I will definitely choose to tidy up the house (just kidding) 😉

For now, I ll let the kids enjoy their grandma (preferably at her house-for obvious reasons) and try to blend in as much as possible. Who knows? An occasional escape from reality might do me wonders, don’t you think?

until next time




15 Responses to “I can’t compete”

  1. Neni Karastamatis February 19, 2013 at 11:19 am #

    Τέλειο piece of art!

    Sent from my iPad

  2. DoRo February 19, 2013 at 11:26 am #

    Your Mom is really very creative!!
    I don’t know for sure, but I think that people who do not see “mess” live better, it does not cause them stress when they look around. I am pretty much in the same shoes, I can’t stand a disorderly house and pick and clean up after my kids, which makes me lose my patience and causes me to pick fights with them. I wish I cared less about it, but i can’t really fight my own “nature”.

    • expatsincebirth February 19, 2013 at 11:52 am #

      You’re so lucky to have a mum that looks after your children! And about the mess, I have the same “problem” as DoRo: I don’t feel comfortable in a mess and am constantly tidying up. Expecially when I’m not feeling well, am sleep deprived etc.. Somehow, “ignoring” the mess is energy consuming for me… I also think that people who do not see mess live better. But, alas, I’m not that kind of person.

      • DoRo February 19, 2013 at 11:56 am #

        My sons hate it when I clean up behind them and claim that I make all their stuff disappear!!!! Oh, how I have tried and still try to get them to be more organized…still have not reached my goal 🙂
        Sitting still is a big problem for me, I always need something to do and I remember distinctly before giving birth, I was cleaning up just to be prepared for after…

      • expatsincebirth February 19, 2013 at 12:09 pm #

        Ha, DoRo, when I feel the urge to clean up, I sometimes go into another room, just not to see the mess… Usually I clean up when they’re done playing, but I have to say that my kids are able to do a huge mess (and it’s really a mess – I should take a picture once…) within such a short time, and they play 2-3 things at the same time (multitasking?) that they forget the role we have, i.e. we tidy up when we’re done playing one thing in order to be ready and have place for the next thing… I once said to a friend that we need the “pink” glasses, to keep a certain distance to these things and to relax. I still haven’t found one.

      • wonderlandbytatu February 19, 2013 at 5:00 pm #

        well, she is not that often around, so when she is, WE seize the opportunity!!!thanks for taking the time to read & comment xxx

    • wonderlandbytatu February 19, 2013 at 4:54 pm #

      Your mom is pretty awesome too!! I am trying very hard to care less and sometimes, just sometimes I succeed at it. If N. would be more laid back things would probably be a bit messier anyway.

  3. ramblingsfromamum February 19, 2013 at 12:06 pm #

    Oh T I use to be a clean nutter, but now..I don’t have the time or the energy – yes the clean fairy arrives usually at the weekend when ‘she’ and Mr S go into overdrive. Unless our house is going to be visited I do not waste my energy on maintaining it to perfection. If people pop in unannounced they have to deal with whatever state it is in. I am clean just a little untidy, especially working all week 😦 (oh and blogging) In saying that daughter # 2’s bedroom at the age of 26 is like a waste dump… she won’t change – I simply sigh, raise my eyes to the sky and shut her door. Let your mum make a mess or do what she needs to when entertaining the kids, she is sharing in their life and that is why she is adored 🙂 xxx

    • wonderlandbytatu February 19, 2013 at 4:56 pm #

      yes, you are right. I ll let her do her thing and just enjoy seeing the kids happy! What else does a mom really want for her kids anyway?? I am totally the very clean, just a bit untidy person myself. One more thing to add to the ‘the things I have in common with my mommy mentor’ list 😉

  4. memyselfandkids.com February 19, 2013 at 4:35 pm #

    I know what you mean about wanting organization. It’s funny you bring this up because I just wrote about it yesterday in a blog post. Anyway, I funciton better in orgzanization and am happier.
    It’s cool that you kids have such an awsome relationship with their grandmother. MAybe, ti would better to drop them off there. This way, you can come in and leave the mess.

    • wonderlandbytatu February 19, 2013 at 4:59 pm #

      I just read your post! great minds think alike, right??
      Yes, they do have the best relationship with my mom ever and yes, exactly my thoughts, I drop them off at her place (whenever possible-not as often as I would like).

      • memyselfandkids.com February 19, 2013 at 5:55 pm #

        Great minds – I don’t know if I can hold up my end of the bargain.
        Get them there often – good for everyone.

      • wonderlandbytatu February 19, 2013 at 6:19 pm #

        you most definitely can.
        yes, a win win situation!

  5. sakuraandme February 20, 2013 at 5:50 am #

    How wonderful of your mother to pass on that fun and imaginative thinking! I adore her spirit and don’t even know her! lol How lucky are you!! I’ve just written a post about kids and grandchildren, so I find this interesting. I think I’ll publish it later this week! Hugs Paula xxxxxx

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