copy and paste

28 Mar

Do they ever grow out of it?

My children are currently in the phase of copying and pasting each other in EVERYTHING they do.

I usually don’t mind that much. I have learned to adapt. I buy Iliana a lollipop, I buy one for Yiannis as well. I need to change Iliana’s pjs because she vomited on them, Yiannis demands to change into a clean pair as well (even though his is spotless). Unless the circumstances ask for differential treatment (such as birthdays, namedays or sick days) I treat them equally.

I know what you think: Why do I give in? Well…I have decided to pick my battles. Yiannis can be exhaustively stubborn and I can be extremely tired at the end of the day. Furthermore, one of my resolutions this year was to say more often yes than no, right? If it were up to my son we could argue about anything & everything. I am trying to convince myself that it is a trait what will serve him well later in his life. Iliana is generally easier to handle but once we go down the negotiation road she follows closely in Yiannis’s footsteps.

Yesterday the copying-pasting thing reached its peak. After visiting the pediatrician for the 3rd time in the last two weeks, we stopped by the drug store to get all the necessary evil to put us on the right track again. We ran into our close friends D. & V. who volunteered to take both kids into the hairdresser’s next door until I finished getting all the stuff we needed. Aaaahhhhh…perfect. I had the next five minutes all alone.

I chatted up the drug store owner, felt gratitude towards my generous friends who gave me the gift of alone time and finished my shopping. Upon leaving the store I suddenly remembered the promise of 1 lollipop for each. I politely asked if I could take 2 for my kids (the son of the owner gave me the don’t-give-me-that-crap-you-just-want-them-for-yourself look), chose 2 interesting enough flavors and left.

The moment I stepped into the hairdresser’s Yianni did not lose any time and demanded his promised lollipop (if you ever contemplate with not following through what you have promised Yianni, think again). I take them out of the bag, show them to my kids and slowly start spelling the flavors: c-h-e-r-r-y annnnnnnnnnnnnnddddddddd  w-a-t-e-r-m-e-l…I WANT THE WATERMELON, shouted Iliana. Yiannis’s already tense look turned into the evil-brother-ready-to-murder-his-younger sister look, NOOOOOOOOOOOO…..I WANT THE WATERMELONNNNNNNNNN.

Oh….I snapped. I lost it. I was furious & totally overreacting. I started preaching on how ungrateful they were only to realise a few minutes later that the only one who urgently needed a time out was me. The realization of a parent.

Until next time

love,

tatu

 

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13 Responses to “copy and paste”

  1. elpida March 28, 2013 at 7:38 pm #

    tatu μου κουράγιο και υπομονή (όσο γίνεται)…έχεις περάσει (απ’ό,τι διαβάζω) δύσκολα τελευταία, έχεις δικαίωμα να ξεφεύγεις …είναι λογικό και ανθρώπινο, μην κρίνεις αυστηρά τον εαυτό σου, .οχι κάτω από τέτοιες συνθήκες….σαν γονείς πιστεύω πως έχουμε δικαίωμα για λάθη…xxxx

    • wonderlandbytatu March 29, 2013 at 11:27 am #

      εννοείται πως κάνουμε λάθη και προσπαθώ να μην κολλάω αλλά να, καμμιά φορά, με τρώνε οι τύψεις..

  2. meditatingmummy March 28, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    Tatu, if only I had a recording of this happening to me a few days back, I would show you. Sigh. I was so exhausted by that shopping trip, I vowed to not do another until they were back at school from Spring break. Just by the way, my kids cannot eat the same food all the time as one is gluten/ wheat free and yet they argue, like an old married couple … No really, sometimes it is tiring. I too want to say yes!!! more often than no!!!! But it often ends up being no. I guess I didn’t learn my lesson as we went out yesterday and had lunch together, but since everyone got the treats they wanted, we were happier.
    I hope the kids feel better soon, I know how exhausting it can be. I also hope you are getting enough sleep. Sending you warm hugs

    • wonderlandbytatu March 29, 2013 at 11:29 am #

      Thank you for your kind words & warm hugs. I am sure that I am not getting enough sleep but at night when the kids are finally in bed I don’t want to ‘waste’ my precious free time on sleeping, you know?
      how old are your children??

  3. memyselfandkids.com March 29, 2013 at 1:00 am #

    I agree with you about choosing when to pick your battles.
    Give yourself a break. Look how happy you were for a 5 minute break in the drug store. You are clearly on edge from all the stress. It happens. Now go take your time out – I bet you will enjoy it.

    • wonderlandbytatu March 29, 2013 at 11:30 am #

      yes, definitely on edge. Even Benny is frustrated and misbehaving…

  4. ramblingsfromamum March 29, 2013 at 12:07 pm #

    Tell N you need half a day – 2 hours – an hour – to be by yourself – to shop, to go and sit in Cafe and have a latte, to just collect your thoughts. Tell him you are stressed and overtired with your mum and everything (btw how is she?) and your reactions to the kids could be detrimental, you need a small break now and then to be you and gather your thoughts and then you shall look at the lollipop situation more calmly. What say you?

  5. lahacienda March 29, 2013 at 1:00 pm #

    getting angry and losing it is human, especially with all the pressure you’re under. don’t worry, they’re kids, they’ll get over it. I agree with the above comments though, GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK from the routine, even if it’s for two hours! big hug!

  6. expatsincebirth March 29, 2013 at 1:08 pm #

    I so agree with you that we have to choose when to pick our battles. I do the same. But you really need a break. ramblingsfromamum gave you a very good advice. I know it’s difficult to ask for help, but you’re having a really tough time right now and what happened with the lollipop is more than normal. It’s too much stress. You don’t need 5 minutes me-time, you need a day or two, just to be you. You have all the right to be very selfish right now. Big hugs xxxx

  7. DoRo March 31, 2013 at 8:51 am #

    Tatu, I know you are really busy and this is always a lot of work, so for the days when you are “free” here is the sunshine award!!!
    http://doro1k1z.wordpress.com/2013/03/31/weather-un-related-sunshine-award/

    • wonderlandbytatu March 31, 2013 at 11:03 am #

      vielen lieben dank Doro!! you put a huge smile on my face 🙂

      • DoRo March 31, 2013 at 12:54 pm #

        you deserve it!!!Kisses!

  8. sakuraandme March 31, 2013 at 2:58 pm #

    Haha! As parents we always need time out. I hugs you for support. xxx

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