let me share some wisdom

15 Apr

Not mine obviously. The one I got from the workshop I attended on conflict resolution at Yiannis’s school two days ago.

But first some events of the last few weeks which seem very relevant to the above.

About a month ago Yiannis came home from school with a party invitation. He is the cutest, proudest and most schmusable(my word, comes from the German word ‘schmusen’=cuddle) little guy when it comes to announcing that he has been invited to a party. You see, one day at the beginning of the year, he came home from school and told me that he had heard in class that the other kids were going to a friend’s party and he told me that he wanted to go as well. I opened his bag and searched for the invitation only to realize that there was none. My heart broke while I tried to explain to him that he had not been invited. The concept was too hard to grasp and he begged me to call the mom and ask her if we could go. I didn’t.

Ever since that incident I make a bit deal out of every invite that goes into his bag. And we made a pact with N. that we would try very hard NOT to miss any party chance there is. Even if it means that we would travel to the end of the world and put ALL our plans on hold.

A few days after the invite, my friend N.K. called and suggested we should reschedule the trip we had canceled a few weeks back due to bad weather and ill children. While we were trying to find a suitable weekend for all, the only available seemed to be the one were Yiannis had his invite. At first we declined N.K.’s offer to spend a WHOLE weekend away but when sense came back to us I decided to ask my son what he preferred in the hope that he might choose wisely. I want to go to the party. No surprise there.

After some blackmailing convincing I did on my part he changed his mind and preferred the and I quote ferry ride, goats, sheep, pigs, friends to play with a whole weekend vs a few hourseating out, taking Benny along. Do you see where I am getting at??

A day before our trip I got an sms from the mom who was hosting the party informing us that her daughter got sick and the party will be postponed until the following Saturday. Great news, I mean awful news for the mom & the kid but WIN WIN for us, we would spend a great weekend away and Yiannis would still go to his party.  The only catch was that it was rescheduled for the Saturday N. & myself had both signed up to attend a workshop at Yiannis’s school. It was then decided that N. would bring the kids to the party & I would participate in the workshop.

The kids had a blast and I attended a great workshop. The topic was: conflict resolution within ourselves. The purpose was to work on ourselves, find all our inner voices (thank God there are others with inner voices), identify them, find the chief voice which will rule out all other (according to circumstances & priorities) and accept that YOU CAN’T DO IT ALL! How wonderful to be reminded. YOU simply CAN NOT DO IT ALL.

Until next time

love,

tatu

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10 Responses to “let me share some wisdom”

  1. meditatingmummy April 15, 2013 at 7:52 am #

    Tatu, I love this post and have lived this too. Particularly where It is heart breaking to tell your child she hasn’t been invited to a party. I am so glad it worked out so Yiannis could go to the party and you could attend a great seminar. I would love for you to shout it from the rooftops if you can, um, well you can’t . They might haul you off somewhere terrible, and that wouldn’t be very good 🙂 but I love that you have said ” we simply cannot do it all” that inner voice is a tricky little blighter, but usually right.
    Hugs

    • wonderlandbytatu April 18, 2013 at 8:47 am #

      thank you for your lovely thoughts once again! It feels good to be understood! xxx

  2. ramblingsfromamum April 15, 2013 at 11:31 am #

    I can only ditto what the gorgeous Shamz (Meditating Mummy) has written.

    So DITTO my lovely T and yes we are mothers not superwomen…Ladies and Gentleman of the Jury I rest my case 🙂 xxxx

  3. memyselfandkids.com April 15, 2013 at 2:49 pm #

    You guys are really booked! Glad it all worked out – oh, I mean it’s a shame the little girl got sick.
    Funny how you convinced him – some list there!

    • wonderlandbytatu April 18, 2013 at 8:45 am #

      N. would be perfectly happy to NOT DO anything on the weekends as he has a very busy and tiring week. I, on the other hand, might go crazy if I don’t do anything on the weekend (perks of being a stay at home mom in the suburbs)

      • memyselfandkids.com April 18, 2013 at 3:11 pm #

        I am somewhere in the middle. There are time when I would be happy to do nothing and other times I would go bonkers staying in the house.

  4. expatsincebirth April 15, 2013 at 3:06 pm #

    Tatu, somehow my inner voice needs to speak up a bit louder… We’re no wonder women, and that’s good! 😉

    • wonderlandbytatu April 18, 2013 at 8:43 am #

      my inner voice needs to shushhhh all the other inner voices I have before I become productive 😉

  5. Anka April 18, 2013 at 8:11 pm #

    I’m happy that Yiannis didn’t miss the birthday party! I feel the same way about attending parties, I will go to the ends of the earth to be there. Sounds like this was a HUGE win win for all of you! 🙂

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