don’t get a dog

24 May

unless you are ABSOLUTELY READY to take on the responsibility of taking care of another living being.

I am currently a bit overwhelmed.

You know how time passes and you tend to forget about all the not so great things about something? Like an old relationship which you tend to idealize with the passing of time although deep down you know it never worked? You want something bad and you keep ignoring the little red lights flashing: WARNING, WARNING, WARNING.

This happened to me.

I was four when we adopted our first dog, Josef (yes, from the Heidi TV series – kinda lame, I know) I truly adored him and the memories I have from him are still very vivid in my mind. I remember all the great stuff. I also remember him getting sick, I remember him in pain, I remember the day we had to put him down. I can still remember all this and I don’t regret having lived the joys and the sorrow. But you see, there is a big difference. I loved Josef to pieces, but he was NOT my responsibility. He was my mom’s. And that my friends, MAKES A HUGE DIFFERENCE.

Don’t get me wrong. I can’t think of our lives without Benny anymore. We are now a family of 5 (well 7, if I really want to be fair and count Johnny, the canarian & Mc Queen, the bunny).

But having a dog and being solely responsible for his well-being is A LOT of work, especially when you want everyone happy (kids, hubby & dog included).

I will lie if I say that N. hadn’t ‘warned’ me. His exact words: YOU WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DOG, I DON’T WANT A DOG. The truth is I was hoping he would fall in love with him and volunteer to care for him as well. Partly this has happened. He loves Benny. But he doesn’t want another thing on his plate. Fair enough.

I was ready. I was ready to take on the fun part. The feeding and walking and playing part. I was fine with that. I WASN’T ready to take on the SAD, WORRY, UGLY stuff. Not yet.

We had him neutered last week and he has now developed a serious infection around the stitches and he suffers. And I suffer along with him. And selfishly enough, I am angry. Not at him, but at the situation. This worry bit wasn’t supposed to start that early. The worry bit was supposed to start in old age. PRETTY NAIVE right?

After almost 6 years of parenting, I should know better.

Things NEVER go as planned. I need to imprint this on my brain.

So…getting a dog is pretty similar to having a child. Your world will change. It will be more beautiful, difficult, joyous, tiring, full, exhausting, happy. It will be wonderfully challenging. It will be complete.

Until next time

love,

tatu

Image

you have to admit. He looks pretty cool, even as Queen Elizabeth 😉

 

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12 Responses to “don’t get a dog”

  1. ramblingsfromamum May 24, 2013 at 7:18 am #

    Those terrible but necessary collars, poor little poppet, as much as you have to go through the caring, I am tipping that Benny is not very happy about the situation either 😦 Animals are full time if we want them in our lives – thankfully the sad, ugly and worry stuff is far outweighed by the laughs, memories, play, cuddle times 🙂 xxx

    • wonderlandbytatu May 24, 2013 at 7:23 am #

      No, of course he isn’t, that is what makes it so difficult. I apologize if I sound too harsh. I love Benny to pieces. I would never change my decision of adopting him, it’s just that I had the kids sick and the dog sick and I was looking for a pharmacy two days ago for 45 minutes in search of the antibiotics he needed while N. was having a hard time with the kids. Adopting a dog is great but it is a decision one should not take lightly. xxx

  2. sakuraandme May 24, 2013 at 1:20 pm #

    Oh how sweet!! I hope the stitches heal up. Hugs to you…Paula xxx

    • wonderlandbytatu May 24, 2013 at 2:26 pm #

      thank you Paula, your hugs are always welcome! hugs are good, always good.

  3. littlemisswordy May 24, 2013 at 2:20 pm #

    Great honest post! I did the same thing…almost. Instead I rescued two puppies at once. I had those same thoughts of “this is so much work” etc. I will say just like having a baby, life seemed to get easier as the puppies got older. Also, not sure how old your kids are but I have mine help with them in ways appropriate for their ages. Hang in there. It’s never easy when our babies are sick.

    • wonderlandbytatu May 24, 2013 at 2:25 pm #

      Thank you Leah. I was beginning to worry if this post was a bit on the too-honest-to-share side. Yiannis will be 6 in August and Iliana is 3 1/2. I am sure it will get easier with time, I just felt a bit overwhelmed.

  4. nothingbythebook May 24, 2013 at 4:05 pm #

    I know. I tell other people with young children to not get a dog. But as soon as my old 13 yo Dobie girl died, what did I do? Got another dog. Despite the 15 mo underfoot…

  5. memyselfandkids.com May 24, 2013 at 5:18 pm #

    I am sorry your dog is not doing well.
    I hear what you are saying about dogs. I want one but don’t want to do all the work involved. I think I’d like to be a grandparent to a dog – enjoy it and send it home.
    I don’t know if you read my stuff then but I wrote a post that I think you will appreciate related to this. If you have a chacnce check it out. http://larrydbernstein.com/can-we-can-we-please/

  6. princessannefoodie May 25, 2013 at 11:39 am #

    I feel you,,, I have dog too,, my friend gave me as a birthday gift,, I am single but now I feel like Im a single mom,, he he he I have instant baby,, feed him… vitamins,, check ups,, vaccines,, walk him, play with him,, before I can go home anytime I want,, but now a days I cant stay late, he he he,, need to feed him, at first its hard but im getting used to it, I adjusted,, lots of responsibilities but the comfort, happiness, love my dog giving to me is priceless,, 🙂 I hope your kids and your dog get well soon,,,

  7. kidsrecipesandorganisedchaos May 30, 2013 at 3:22 pm #

    My kids are BUSTING to get a dog, but I know I will be the one picking up its poo and looking after it. I have 4 kids, I think a dog will push me over the edge lol
    Kidsrecipesandorganisedchaos.wordpress.com

    • wonderlandbytatu May 30, 2013 at 3:30 pm #

      Oh and the 4 kids have not pushed you over the edge?? LOL
      Dogs are great but they are A LOT OF WORK. Is it worth it? Absolutely!

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