I belong to the 0,8%

22 Nov

There is NO CERTAINTY in LIFE.

NONE.

I love to make plans. I function well on a program. I genuinely dislike surprises. I am a planner. So is N.

We thought we had it ALL figured out. Until last Friday. When this happened:

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No…I can’t be pregnant…this can’t be right. After all I had been promoting my choice of contraceptive method, the IUD (spiral), to all my mommy friends for the last few years. After tying your tubes it is supposed to be the most effective non hormonal contraceptive method. The failure rate lays very low, at around 0,8%.

LIFE IS WHAT HAPPENS WHILE YOU ARE BUSY MAKING OTHER PLANS, right?

Let me take things from the beginning.

I wanted to get married and have lots of children. When I was 6.  Somehow I was convinced that prince charming would eventually come and rescue me (from what I am not sure to this day) and we would live happily ever after.

Some 20+ years and two children later we were slowly getting our LIVES BACK on track.  We felt blessed to have two healthy children and happy that the baby years were over. We flirted with the idea of an addition to the family but we ruled it out for all the logical reasons in the world (financial situation, mental state of mother etc). Family planning was complete and we were OK with it.

KABOOM.

After a week of turmoil and numerous possible catastrophic scenarios, we opted for the unthinkable. We decided to keep it.

BREATHE IN – BREATHE OUT.

Until next time

love

tatu

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29 Responses to “I belong to the 0,8%”

  1. john November 22, 2013 at 4:45 pm #

    you are a hero

  2. zoe k. November 22, 2013 at 5:49 pm #

    Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Is this a joke?

    • wonderlandbytatu November 22, 2013 at 6:18 pm #

      no honey…no joke!

      • zoe k. November 22, 2013 at 7:05 pm #

        Ελα ρεεεεεεε! Εχω χαρεί πάρα πολύ! ❤ ❤ ❤

  3. mylifeisthebestlife November 22, 2013 at 6:33 pm #

    HOLY CRAP!!! You’re amazing.

    • wonderlandbytatu November 22, 2013 at 6:39 pm #

      Not me honey, the kick ass sperm of N. 😜

      • mylifeisthebestlife November 22, 2013 at 7:11 pm #

        I’m having my tubes tied in January, so Husbandio better not have suergery-reversing sperm.
        But good for you! What a crazy, fun journey this will be.

  4. Mariangela November 22, 2013 at 7:13 pm #

    Congratulations darling!!!!!

  5. elpida November 22, 2013 at 10:01 pm #

    hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!congrats!!! terrifying, isn’t it???I was thinking of a spiral…not any more!!!I wish you to have an easy-going pregnancy! I would have chosen the same!kisses to everybody there!!

    • wonderlandbytatu November 23, 2013 at 8:54 am #

      Yes, absolutely terrifying! I am still under shock…I hope I will slowly get back on track. I have to do some therapeutic knitting, or cooking, or whatever to take my mind off it 😉

  6. mmtread November 22, 2013 at 11:33 pm #

    My brother and his wife had life all planned out. He was going to retire at 45 with a house paid for, university arranged for his 2 kids, a fat pension, etc. My wife and I were actually visiting them when they discovered that, despite all precautions, she was pregnant with number 3. Their life plans changed in an instant. But it’s all been good, and Meagan, the ‘it’ at the time, brings their parents daily joy.
    My wife has an IUD, and your story gives me slight jitters. Of course, with her insanely busy with a new job our sex life is on the same schedule as Haley’s Comet, so there’s not much chance of impregnation, But still.
    Well, here’s to a new adventure, a new life, a new world of possibilities! She’s going to be the best thing that ever happened to you (it’s a girl, you know – I can feel it), so congratulations, all the best, and believe, know, feel in the deepest recesses of your mind and soul that you’ve made the right decision. This one is going to be your favorite, Tatu, I can guarantee. (But don’t tell the other kids that.)

    • wonderlandbytatu November 23, 2013 at 9:20 am #

      Pension at 45?? Tell me how he did THAT! I know where you’re coming from. I feel like we have been given a lesson (apart from the gift). All this planning and worrying about the future feels sort of useless, right? The thing is, no 3 will bring more joy, more sorrow, more troubles and more laughter and everything a child brings. It will be more tiring, more challenging, just more. I was not really ready for more, but I now I will have 8 more months to get used to the idea, right?
      A girl, huh? Maybe you re right, or maybe Jannis’ wish comes true and we ll have a boy (I think he is pretty fed up with the 4 girls in the family). I don’t mind whichever. I just hope it will healthy and strong.
      Thank you Matt for your warm thoughts and wishes. You always seem to make me look at the bright side of things!

  7. kidsrecipesandorganisedchaos November 23, 2013 at 3:09 am #

    Congratulations Tatu!! I know you are shocked, and probably a little bit scared, but this is such wonderful news!! And sorry, but I have to laugh a bit too lollllll! My sister was exactly like you, absolutely adamant there would be no more babies, and then, there was one more. I spent 9 months laughing at her ;P

  8. meditatingmummy November 23, 2013 at 5:00 am #

    Unexpected, but very blessed to be born into your beautiful family T. It’s going to be a scary/ happy, sad/ crazy roller coaster ride. You will run the gamut of emotions because like you said, you thought the early years were over, but know what? This is the best part of life, the little- est surprise to make this journey a wee bit more interesting. You and N will be just fine. It will be tough but Yannis and Iliyana will rise to the occasion and help, nurture and protect.
    Will email you…are you feeling good?
    xxxx

    • wonderlandbytatu November 23, 2013 at 9:25 am #

      Hormones are already acting out and I am a total mess at the moment. Yes, it will be tough but as a friend of mine said: the 3rd might bring the balance I was looking for to our family. I just hope I will stay sane enough to raise another one.
      xxx

      • meditatingmummy November 23, 2013 at 8:54 pm #

        You will lovely girl, you will. Sometimes, it is meant to be this way and your friend is right, the littlest might just balance it all out for you. Now, as for your sanity… I’m here, we can have a virtual party whenever you want, chocolate.. no wine… not yet, I won’t even suggest Ouzo.. I tried some you know, wow!!! potent and lots of laughs and hugs to keep you going. You can knit too.. i’ll send you my address and that way you can start up your business while you nest.
        Look at me, I’m full of ideas today…
        xxxx

  9. ramblingsfromamum November 23, 2013 at 8:44 am #

    OMG – I am gobsmacked CONGRATULATIONS darling girl!!!!! Wow how totally…unexpected. I had my tubes tied – but hmmm well no hope of any surprises happening to moi. I am so happy for you and I hope you are HAPPY FOR YOU and N. You will be fine as MM has said – PARTAY!!!!!!! OOOPS NO put that wine down girl! xxxxxxx 😀 😉

    • wonderlandbytatu November 23, 2013 at 9:27 am #

      Happy? Sometimes. The remaining of the time I am just plain scared and panicked.
      Oh, and I was so NOT READY to put the wine down 😉
      How are you my MM? Everything OK? Its been a crazy week and I have some serious blogging catching up to do.
      Lots of love
      xxx

      • ramblingsfromamum November 23, 2013 at 12:04 pm #

        Hello sweet – had a few bad days – mum not so good with her memory and major fight with daughter – both posted-
        YOU must be happy – you have learnt with the other 2 – now you shall have more patience and enjoy this bundle more that you could ever have thought 🙂 love you too xxx

  10. gaitanaki (Eliza) November 23, 2013 at 9:32 am #

    My darling Tatu!
    Nothing else comes to mind other than I want to scream and dance congratulations! It’s wonderful news! I hope you have a lovely pregnancy and the cutest baby on earth!
    x e

    • wonderlandbytatu November 23, 2013 at 9:48 am #

      Thank you my friend…από το στόμα σου και στου Θεού τ’αυτί! σε φιλώ σταυρωτά xxx

  11. Αγγελική November 25, 2013 at 1:11 am #

    Woo hoo hoooooooooooo !!!!!! I just saw this post and – believe me – if you were in touching distance, I would have squeezed and hugged you in a 1000% Greek way !!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

    Huuuuuuuuge, mahoooooosive, ginormous congratulations !!! Wishing you a happy, healthy, uneventful pregnancy !!! xxx

    P.S.: Have you told the kids, yet ?

  12. Anonymous November 26, 2013 at 1:52 pm #

    CONGRATULATIONS!!
    I’m so thrilled for you both! Έλα τώρα,στο τρίτο παιδί θα’χει βγάλει τα λεφτά του και το PET!!
    Yes, it’s doable…from what I’ve heard….:-)

  13. memyselfandkids.com November 27, 2013 at 2:01 am #

    Wow, I missed this post. Huge news!!!
    Some surprise!
    Congratulations to you and your husband. Awesome!

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