if you ever take one advice from me, let it be this

21 Mar

ALWAYS TRUST YOUR (MOTHER) INSTINCT.

Call it intuition, call it sixth sense. Call it what you like. If you have doubts about a certain situation, trust your instincts. Unless you are a hypochondriac or suffer from any kind of anxiety disorder or … you get the picture.

Throughout the last 6+ years of parenting this point has been proven to me more than once. I was very reluctant in the beginning but as the years passed by, I got more experienced and listening to my instinct almost always turned out to be the right thing to do in the first place.

Iliana had been snoring since she was 2. After a few frightening sleep apnea episodes we decided to do something about it.  I asked the advice of my pediatrician and he suggested I should see an ear-nose-throat specialist. So we went and saw a couple. Both said the same thing. She needs to have surgery.  It didn’t take much to convince me as Yiannis had his adenoids removed when he was 3 1/2 and all health related problems ceased to exist a week after his operation.

So we decided to go through with it and I took Iliana to the surgeon my pediatrician had advised me to consult. Although she had enlarged tonsils he didn’t want to take them out. He tried to convince me that they are there for a reason and we should only take her adenoids out as they seem to obstruct her breathing. I was reluctant. I saw it coming. I had doubts. I shared my doubts both with him and my pediatrician. I don’t want to put her through another operation next year. If you feel that we might end up here again for her tonsils, I would rather take them out now. Why put her through ANOTHER operation? ANOTHER full anaesthesia? 

Don’t worry. We ll take the adenoids out and the problem will be fixed, her surgeon reassured me.

Well, guess what.

Her problem was never fixed. She kept on snoring, she still had apnea episodes, she kept on being a poor eater and she never gained the proper weight she needed to thrive. All in all, her operation was a complete failure.

Which brings us back to today. Its been four days since she took her tonsils out (with another surgeon and without consulting my pediatrician first). I am mad at the doctors who exploit our children in order to make more money. I am mad, Iliana had to have two surgeries to fix her problem, instead of just one. I am mad I had to sign a sheet of paper agreeing that the full anaesthesia might have complications as severe as leaving her brain-dead. AGAIN.

Let’s look at the big picture now.

I am glad I didn’t dwell on what happened last year (well not too much, that is) and I trusted my instinct and searched for a different surgeon who was both competent and kind and respectful.

I am glad this is over and she is OK now.

I am glad I have two healthy children and another one on the way.

Until next time

love

tatu

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5 Responses to “if you ever take one advice from me, let it be this”

  1. ramblingsfromamum March 21, 2014 at 11:58 am #

    My eldest had her adenoids out when she was little for snoring, it didn’t help. Some doctors like to think they have god status but they are no where near it. So glad she is ok and you have found someone you trust….and you know what all this is learning…for the next one 🙂 xxx

  2. memyselfandkids.com March 21, 2014 at 12:26 pm #

    Glad to hear she is doing okay.
    I don’t blame you for being upset that she had to have surgery twice. However, why assume the dr. did this intentionally?

    • wonderlandbytatu March 21, 2014 at 2:33 pm #

      Because the surgeon who operated on her this year told me that the tonsils couldn’t have gotten that huge in one year.

  3. gaitanaki (eliza) March 21, 2014 at 6:46 pm #

    Unfortunately Tatu, as you know, the doctors priorities in Greece are not necessarily to the patients interest. It’s also an constant unfair battle, because it’s a health issue and you have a professional right in front of you that you want to trust but can’t.
    No 3 is lucky! He will find a very experienced mum ready for him/her!
    x e

    • wonderlandbytatu March 28, 2014 at 9:07 am #

      Yes, I have thought of that as well. He will benefit from all my previous screw ups 😉

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